You’re getting married. We are so excited for you. We love love, and there is nothing that makes us happier than healthy, sincere relationships.
Premarital counseling has come up – maybe it’s required, or maybe a family member suggested it. Either way, premarital counseling is the way to go if you want to head into marriage as #couplegoals. It’s just a really great way to start the rest of your lives together.
And even though it’s an insanely exciting time, can we take a second to talk about how stressful wedding planning is? We’ve seen first hand how weddings can bring a ton of tears and stress you weren’t anticipating. Everyone has an opinion – from the guest list to the bridesmaid dresses to the menu at cocktail hour. Is this even our wedding anymore? Premarital counseling can be a break from that insanity and a chance for you and your partner to connect about what’s really important, where to hold boundaries with other people, and remind yourselves why you’re on this journey in the first place.
You probably have a lot of questions about premarital counseling, so to help you understand what it’s like, we’ve compiled a Q&A about what to expect:
Who goes to premarital counseling?
Couples who are engaged!
What should I expect in premarital counseling?
You can expect to have conversations with your partner about important marriage issues with the help of a counselor: How do we handle our finances? Do we want kids? Where do we want to live? What are your life goals?
There’s also the chance to iron out any issues that keep coming up – like an argument you’re having over and over again and never seems to get anywhere. You have the opportunity to move past things that keep you stuck in your relationship.
Why do we need to talk about these things now?
It’s totally normal to have disagreements with your partner about big issues and it’s healthy to have different opinions. What’s not healthy? Ignoring those issues and letting resentment grow until the issues become unmanageable and irreparable. By talking about them before they are problems you decrease the chance that will turn into something that could make or break your marriage.
Can’t we just have these conversations on our own? Why do we need you to help?
You could totally have these conversations on your own – but we are trained to help people have these conversations in a productive and effective way, and we’ll probably point out a few things you didn’t know were important to talk about. We can help you navigate hard topics, identify and address problems you’re already having, and make sure you are both really feeling connected and being heard.
How long does it take?
Your relationship is unique to you and your partner. During a free consult we can talk about your needs and expectations of premarital counseling and find what works for you. That might look like a two months of weekly sessions, or maybe you’re getting married in three weeks and need a 4 hour bootcamp style session. We’ll work with you to decide what’s best for you and your partner.
Where do the sessions take place?
Sessions can happen online or in our office in the Reading, PA area.
Still have questions?
Ask us! Shoot us an email and we can set up a free consultation to talk about what you need and how we can help you get it. Contact us now!