Using I-statements can change how you communicate with your partner. Last week I shared a 3 minute video on blame that every couple should watch. According to Brené Brown, “blame is simply the discharging of discomfort and pain,” and “blaming’s very corrosive in relationships.” Corrosive and relationship in the same sentence? No, thanks. […]
The 3 Minute Blame Video Every Couple Needs to See
“How many of you go to that place? When something bad happens the first thing you want to know is whose fault is it? But here – if you enjoy blaming this is where you want to stick your fingers in your ear and do the na-na-na thing because I’m about to ruin it for […]
Counseling Is My 2020 Resolution
Make a resolution that will make a difference. It’s that time of year again – New Year’s resolution season. The time where everyone picks the thing they don’t like about themselves the most and vows to quit or change. “I’m going to finally quit smoking in 2020!” “I’m going to lose 20 pounds this year!” […]
Six Ways To Survive Your Family This Holiday Season
Family can be hard during the holidays. Ok, so I know the title of this blog may seem a little aggressive. But sometimes family can be really hard during the holidays. Relationships with family can be complicated. If you love your family – but being around them stresses you out – this post is for […]
Mental Wellness Holiday Gift Guide
Give Gifts That Keep Giving ‘Tis the season to give gifts. ‘Tis also the season for trying to make the holidays “perfect,” fights with your family, cake and cookies everywhere, and other stressful holiday scenarios. Let’s face it, while this time of year can be magical in some ways, it can also be pretty tough […]
Relationship Connection: Couples Counseling
Part 4 of the Relationship Connection Series Counseling helps couples connect. So, connection is still a problem in your relationship? You tried using I-Statements that I told you about in the first post. You read the second post and tried to get a true grasp on self awareness. You used the third post as a […]
Relationship Connection: Modeling the Connection You Crave
Part 3 in the Relationship Connection Series What does your partner need for connection? Ok, so let’s get real here people. If you read the first post in the series, and the second, and now this – you really care about emotion connection in your relationship. Maybe it’s because there’s a loss of connection, […]
Three Advantages of Online Counseling
Online counseling is growing in popularity. And there are gooood reasons for that. You’re looking for a counselor. You type “therapy” or “counseling” into Google and a ton of options come up – some local counselors, some local agencies, marriage therapist, and then you see some online options. Counseling online? Is that a thing? Don’t […]
Relationship Connection: Deep Connection With Yourself
Part 2 in the Relationship Connection Issues Series Connect to yourself to connect with your partner. In my first post about connecting with your partner, I wrote about how to send messages to your partner so that they are received. In this post, I want to address the messages themselves. Are you connected with yourself […]
Relationship Connection: Connecting With Your Partner
Part 1 of the Relationship Connection Issues Series You’re thinking about connection on all the wrong ways. How well do you connect in your relationship? Connection is a word I hear a lot from clients. Deep connection. Emotional connection. “There’s no connection in my relationship.” “We’re not connecting.” “I don’t feel connected to my partner.” […]